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Tribe Weekly Bible Plan (5 day) - The Importance of Boundaries

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Jesus demonstrated and modeled that we as Christians should be the first to seek restoration in a relationship. This week we dove into setting boundaries. If even Jesus had a relationship that could be restored in Judas, then it is possible you and I have some relationships that don't need restoration but rather boundaries. Not every relationship can be restored. Paul says if it is possible live at peace with everyone because he knew it would not be possible because some people are deliberately toxic and peace resistant.



Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written; "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord. On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:17-21 NIV)

While I was with them, I protected them and kept them safe by that name you gave me. None has been lost except the one doomed to destruction so that Scripture would be fulfilled. (John 17:12 NIV)

Whatever town or village you enter, search there for some worthy person and stay at their house until you leave. As you enter the home, give it your greeting. If the home is deserving, let your peace rest on it; if it is not, let your peace return to you. If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. Truly I tell you, it will be more bearable for Sodom and Gomorrah on the day of judgement that for that town. "I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves. Be on your guard... (Matthew 10:11-17a NIV)


Jesus guidelines for setting boundaries...

Point 1 - Know where to go (Matthew 10:11 NIV)
Jesus wanted his disciples to be effective so he instructed them to be wise as serpents and innocent as doves. 

Point 2 - Know when to leave (Matthew 10:12-14 NIV)
Basically, Jesus is saying there is a time to take yourself out of an abusive situation. When people won't listen or compromise, know when it is time to leave.

Point 3 - Know who is worthy (Matthew 10:11 NIV)
Every person in the world is worthy of God's love but not every person is ready to be in a healthy relationship. Sometimes good boundaries force us to grow.

Having healthy boundaries is just as Christ-like as forgiveness. Even Jesus had a relationship He couldn't restore (Judas) or a better way of saying this is there was a person who did not want to have a true relationship with Jesus. 

If you haven't yet watched the sermon from this past weekend we encourage you to check it out. The current sermon video will be available this Tuesday. Click on the link below to view:


Recent TVC Sermon Video 


1. How can we model having healthy boundaries like Jesus did?

2. When is setting boundaries actually showing love?
3. What are some ways we can show love like Jesus did when someone keeps hurting us?


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