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9 Ways to Welcome New People to Your Tribe

How do you welcome new people to your Tribe? We love inviting new couples to our Tribe. In fact, we may have more room in our hearts for people than we have in our living and dining rooms. Last time we got together, my wife said, “We don’t have enough seating!” My response, “Jesus had no place to lay His head—it’s okay if we don’t have anywhere to put our rear ends.” Turns out we found enough chairs, which is definitely important for welcoming new people to your Tribe.

But what else? Well, since your Tribe is just the friends you grow, laugh, and serve with, it turns out welcoming new people there is a lot like welcoming any new person to your home or gathering place. Here are nine ways to welcome new people to your Tribe.

  1. Do you. All of these are great recommendations, but mostly importantly, you need to be who you are. Maybe you just have to ask people to take their shoes off. Well okay, we need Tribes for people who always take their shoes off!

  2. Get to know each other a little. Even if you already have a certain conversation planned, ask your group (new and old) to share a little about themselves. Ask something like, “How did you find our church, and is anything different in your life since you started coming?” Don’t expect to go super deep, but you don’t have to stay too shallow either.

  3. Don’t speak in code. If you have an existing Tribe, you probably know each other pretty well. Maybe you even work or work out together. Try not to talk about too many things your new friends aren’t part of. Find conversations you can include them in.

  4. Give them something. Are you meeting at a coffee shop? Maybe offer to buy your new friends’ drinks this week. At a home? Offer to get them something to drink. Have snacks or a meal available when possible. Finally, if you have something yummy leftover, offer to send it home with them.

  5. Let them leave their shoes on. If you meet in your home, and you have fantastically beautiful floors, you might ask most people to take their shoes off. Well, your new friends are the exception. Odds are they’ll see that you and others are shoe less and follow suit. Otherwise, just bust out the swiffer after they leave.

  6. Let them know what to expect. If possible, reach out during the week before Tribe and let your friends know what to expect, how to get to your meeting place, and answer any questions they have.

  7. Be their Tribe tour guide. Let your new friends know where the bathrooms are, where they can put their coats, where the food may be, and what you’ll be doing together.

  8. Introduce yourself and others. Odds are you already met, but if not, introduce yourself. No matter what, shake their hand. It just sends a welcoming message. Also, introduce your new friends to each person/couple in your group individually.

  9. Greet them at the door. Yup, it’s simple but important. Also, if you have a pet that wanders the house and you don’t know how your new friends feel about pets, lock them up.

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